Discouraged by online dating
Image Source: Meld Until mainstream online dating sites catch up on colorblindness, many experts say that black women have more success on sites like Meld, Black People Meet or other sites designed for black people and the people interested in dating them.
But as it turns out, even though 93% of people aged 19 to 29 Image Source: Shutterstock If OKCupid’s studies are anything to go by, black men gave black women the cold shoulder too and vice versa.Before I met my husband 10 years ago, I signed up on a dating site, then left the house to run some errands.When I came back a couple of hours later, I had 75 responses!I tried to answer all of them, but I kept getting more and more, so I finally gave up.I can only imagine how many responses women get today with online dating even more popular than it was then.If he covers all his bases and is himself, he'll do OK. DEAR HELPFUL: Many readers wrote to point out that the problem "Dateless" is experiencing could be more about the idiosyncratic subscription rules on some dating websites than about the writer or the women he is contacting.
Other experienced users shared their stories: DEAR ABBY: I can tell "Dateless" why he's not getting "thanks, but no thanks" notes from the women he contacts on the online dating service: Those women are most likely overwhelmed with responses.
That’s just the reality.”To get any response at all, black women have to reach out roughly 1.5 times the amount of any other group — and they are still the group that’s the least responded to.
Image Source: Shutterstock White men are most numerous on mainstream dating sites like OKCupid and and that’s where daters go to look for them.
Synonyms: discourage, dishearten, dismay, dispirit These verbs mean to make less hopeful or enthusiastic: researchers who were discouraged by the problem's magnitude; apathy that disheartened the instructor; did not let the technical difficulties dismay them; a failure that dispirited the team.
Image Source: Shutterstock Looking to find love online this year? The studies are in and black women come near the bottom of the pile when it comes to finding love on mainstream dating sites.
Women who do go on dates with those men sometimes find out that they’re more interested in dating a skin color or a stereotype than getting to know them as a person.