Debate against online dating
A female friend of mine would only date men who lived a minimum of one hour away—she liked the anonymity.
A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives, but if her husband dies she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. So biblically the bottom line for the follower of Christ is: Will you marry only a believer.John Piper is founder and teacher of desiring and chancellor of Bethlehem College & Seminary.For 33 years, he served as pastor of Bethlehem Baptist Church, Minneapolis, Minnesota.So a Christian is not free to marry outside the Lord. And what saddens me, Tony, is how many believers get so entangled emotionally with unbelievers that they either throw away their convictions or they stand on their head to see the other person as a believer when he is not. A mature believer will want his or her spouse not just to profess some kind of creed or be willing to go to church.What they will want is not just a marriage that is minimally Christian, but a Christian marriage.I think it is at the Desiring God website, 50 questions that couples should ask.
And they can be asked, you know, on the internet before you even meet the kind of things that really reveal what people are committed to. I am fine with meeting someone online and learning as much as possible about them. The great question is: Are you mature enough to discern a worthy spouse?
And a Christian marriage is described in Ephesians five like this.
Wives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord, for the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the Church.
I just ran into my buddy Andy at a restaurant-—the kind of hip place you'd take a first date to impress her.
Knowing he'd gone through a difficult divorce—one he didn't really want—I was pleased when he immediately introduced me to his new girlfriend, Carol. Andy and Carol turned to one another and began mumbling something indecipherable for what seemed to be an eternity.
This makes sense in part, because men tend to be more visual.