Dating myself blog
Rather than stress about how hard it was to meet the perfect woman at the age of 30, I decided to forget about dating all together. When you start dating yourself, your mindset shifts. Stay up late and watch episodes of your favorite show on Netflix.
Go to a movie by yourself and sit in the exact seat you want to sit in. You have no idea how much effort it took to censor all my content.How scared I was to mention the word “boyfriend” or “Alex” for fear of someone reading too far into it.” “Smiley, I want to have a family and I’m 32 and single, my life is worthless! First off, if so many amazing people are single, why is everyone having so much trouble meeting the right partner? It might inspire you to explore a new passion or find a new job.I now keep a running tab in my journal of cool and clever people I know who are single and I cross-reference the list once every two weeks for potential matches — I’m like a boutique Hinge. It might give you the time to launch the project or embark on the adventure you’ve always dreamed of.Being very present within the internet world, it’s hard to keep certain things anonymous or hidden.
For instance, I dated Alex Day for almost a year and hiding it, like we agreed to do, was near impossible.
” “Smiley, how am I supposed to meet someone when everyone attractive and dateable is already taken? It might help you stop worrying about what other people think of your sixth Tinder photo (or stress about whether you should even have a sixth Tinder photo — “who the hell has six Tinder photos?!
” “Smiley, I can’t go to another wedding without a 1, it’s embarrassing! ”) and start thinking about how you want to spend your days.
Second, and more alarming, is why people are so distraught about being single. Write a book (disclaimer: I did this and as a result was single for two years, so plan accordingly). If you’re lucky, dating yourself might even bring you closer to the person you’ve been looking for.
I’ve spent the better part of the last year (okay, two years) (all right, fuck it, three years) single, and while I could make up a horror story about how miserable I was, the truth is I’ve never been happier. Wake up early and read a book that has been sitting on your shelf for months.
Find a friend working on a project that interests you and see how you can get involved. Push yourself outside your comfort zone by going solo to a happy hour, party or event that sounds fun. (And if you decide to break up with your girlfriend, let me know cause I have a huge crush on her.)Don’t worry, it’s not permanent.