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If you want to try pegging, you're going to need to make sure everyone involved is on the same page. Don't come in hot and buy a strap-on without discussing it beforehand.I won't lie to you, few guys are going to be open to pegging (my current BF included). If your boyfriend is not down and cannot be reasoned with no matter how many facts you present, you have to let it go.

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It is not a compliment, because like eroticization, it sexualizes, objectifies and racializes the female body, jamming it into a tight space where hypersexuality, primitiveness, danger, temptation and difference are forced upon us.This is not to say I have become the mad mixed woman in the attic and have cast off all white men.It's also not to say that this can't happen with all races of men -- I just have yet to find an interracial relationship where my difference isn't at the forefront.The exotification of the racialized body is a way for non-racialized subjects to, like hooks reminds us, come to know themselves.By casting coloured women as different, they maintain the status quo of race and sex dominance while marginalizing, sexualizing, and dehumanizing coloured women.It came at a time when I was trying to make sense of what was happening to my body and how it was being perceived.

It especially came at a time when I found out the guy I had been seeing had a white girlfriend and was sleeping with me to finally make his fantasy of fucking black girls come true (wasn't I lucky to be the first? As a mixed-race girl, I also found it unsettling that the colour of my skin allowed people to label me as "Black," or as something tropical and exotic -- it was always one of the two.

I have yet to find that guy who hasn't used me to see if sleeping with me makes him a new man, or a guy who hasn't made the wretched "I love black people" disclaimer upon meeting me. But I am speaking to something more structural than just the colour of my skin and people's reactions to it; I am talking about privilege, racism, colonialism -- systems and institutions of power and hierarchy that allow for women of colour to be exotified and Othered; to be treated as sex objects and animals instead of humans.

To be treated by non-coloured men as cheapened territory that becomes a game of conquering.

Nobody knew what I was, so I was immediately placed in a stereotypical category that both separated me from others and made me mysterious. After months of self-hatred, feeling dirty inside and out and wondering what I was doing wrong, I finally started to come to terms with what was happening around me.

Being a racial minority female in a city of racially dominant men made me exotic.

Simply put (and at the risk of terrifying you), pegging is penetrating someone anally with a strap-on. Pegging isn't (always) about being the overlord of your boyfriend's ass!